Now, how much do you get affected? Depending on how important the issue that concerns you is, you get affected.
You could be just showing a grumpy face around or you could express your mood swings to people around you . You could even get to level of having rude interactions with known and unknown people who cross your way during that time. Your behavior continues until your problem is solved. Did you realise, eventually, you have created more problems than you can imagine during this time when you have been purely focused on solving that one issue that has significantly impacted your mind?.
You have probably annoyed your partner/kids and given them a bunch of bad memories to carry for the rest of their lives. You have probably ruined the mood of people who you interacted with is causing the same cyclical effect as yours and spreading so quickly. I come to think of a metaphor here, which is the flu called 'Common Cold'. The one that is absolutely annoying, spreads so quickly, and people refrain from coming near you. This is exactly the similar situation you create with your expression and interaction if you allow your problems to reflect your behavior.
Do you know the irony here, in a lot of times, the issues around you are so much beyond your control that there is very little you can do. If you take a moment to think the last time you were under crisis/problem that was resolved subsequently, and your actions and reactions during that time, you can understand me clearly. And, let me tell you, during that time, you had two choices. Either to create more problems or just allow the storm to pass without causing further damages or fresh problems.
Its quiet rightly said, 'Live for the Moment'. No matter what stage of life you are in, what are the problems (small/big) you have. Allow that storm to settle on its own. Get familiar with your situation, do not create an aversion to it. Learn to let the issue park itself somewhere around your life which you acknowledge and would give your best effort, BUT, you LIVE THE CURRENT MOMENT.
Be happy especially when you are in interaction with people or any of natures beautiful creations. Learn to be light. When this Life is over, these precious moments are also gone. You can choose to keep thinking of things that bother you and lose these precious moments or live in the moment and capture a memory. And, by the way, unknowingly you are adding something here. You are not spreading 'Common Cold' and instead, you are spreading more smiles into others life as much as you add to your own.
I know, it is easier said than done, but, 'give it a try'. Since you actually tend to gain by trying. 'Be Happy - Live for the Moment'
