When life puts a stumbling block, like the case of dealing with grief, it puts one in a state of despair, those who lose their loved ones lose reality that the world still exists. I had to place myself in such moments and by this post I want to share my experience of dealing with grief. I will start by saying, its Better Late than Never. Read on to understand why I say that.....
This blog is for those dealing with grief, an emotional feeling that is the worst of all, the one that makes you feel vulnerable and weak. Life is always a maze full of bumpy roads, but we think we know the way and that everything is within our control and can be managed. But suddenly, the maze throws a stumbling block so big that you trip off and fall forward, face down. You want the world to end, or the person you lost to come back. I understand your grief and the loneliness it brings amid a noisy world around us. I understand, it is a whole load of mixed emotions that comes along, anger, self-sympathy, and inevitably guilt which makes you remember all those bad moments to reverse them with a time capsule.
The biggest struggle is to get over the thought of how you could have done things differently that you could have the person still alive, as if you are god who can deceive death. You think of all those innumerable possibilities of doing things differently that could have saved the person or at the least given more time with the person. But the reality is that, destiny has its plans for each and every one of us, and when the turn comes, it does not give time. The one gone remains a memory to cherish and that as a matter of fact is the best coping mechanism to deal with grief. The person lives in your memories until you are alive, cherish it. And, it is also the time to reflect upon those around us, what they will do when we are gone, and that they have their turns too as much as we do. So it is better late than never, for us to learn to forgive and forget emotions of displeasure. Do not wait for a future moment to share how you feel, resolve differences, show love and care. Do not wait for tomorrow, instead act today like there is no tomorrow.
Life is a fragile state of being and what remains after us is just our memory, the one which we create for those surrounding us. We are all imperfect and although we think we are making our choices, it is life like in the maze, choosing for us. So, in the end, it is all about living until our time is up and it is upto us how we live. I choose to live cherishing beautiful memories, the way he will be liked to be remembered, and I will live with hope of giving and reciprocating love and care for those around me, making memories of how I would like to be remembered, when I am gone. God has plans for all of us and as the true saying goes, man proposes and god disposes. So live well, its better late than never. And for the one I lost, I cherish all the beautiful memories made, grateful for having a soul that cared and wished well for me.
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